One of the most important skills for leading a successful and happy life is building and maintaining great relationships. Today’s nugget will kick us off on this learning journey with a classic article from The Atlantic by Emily Esfahani Smith about the psychologist John Gottman, whose famous “Love Lab” has taken a rigorous quantitative approach to what had previously been more of an art than a science: couples therapy. His conclusion, after crunching the numbers? Lasting relationships are all about kindness and generosity.

Read on to learn more about Gottman’s research and how you can translate it into practice!